I want everyone I care about to be in a healthy relationship.
I know that there are no perfect relationships, but there are healthy ones. A person should be with someone who loves their flaws because those flaws are just as much a part of their partner as their better attributes. A person deserves to hear compliments from their partner about the way they look and about their ideas and actions. A person deserves to have someone who will listen to them when they need to vent and not judge them. I know that I was in relationships in the past where I did not feel respected, but I stayed in those relationships because I started to believe that I couldn’t ever find a better relationship. I remember feeling weak and feeling a sense of loneliness that comes with the thought that there may not be another person on this planet meant for me. I realized that we end up being victimized not only by the other person, but also by ourselves. It took me such a long time to trust and to accept love and respect. I wasted so much of my life coming and going from relationship to unhealthy relationship that when someone finally showed me that I was special, I almost didn’t believe them.
To The People I Love And Care For: I want you to be happy, truly and deliriously happy in your relationships. I don’t want you to accept anything less than someone who knows the worst things about you and loves you all the more. I want you to feel light-headed when you kiss the person that you are with. I want you to feel attractive and special every single day and for your partner to remind you that you are if you forget. I want you to know that your friends and family want you to be in a healthy relationship.
I want you to realize that waiting for the right someone to come along is far better than enduring however many wrong someone’s.